That Was Unexpected

Well last night was date number two with guy number one (this could get confusing if I replace everything with numbers).

We were originally supposed to go to a movie. But I needed us to go to it earlier in the evening because I wanted to go to Emily's husband's band's show that was last night. Then, he remembered he had a Christmas party to go to beforehand. After I mentioned the reason why we needed to do the date earlier, he was all about going to the show.

I was not all about it, because that meant introducing him to a bunch of people and I didn't know him that well. Plus, they were playing at Emo's, which I was pretty sure was not his typical scene (and it's not mine either, I just didn't want him to think that it was).

So because of all of this, I kept trying to give him several outs for not going to the show. Things like, "I don't really have to go because I see them all the time," or "we could probably still make a movie before the show" and several "are you sure you want to go to this show?" But he pressed on about wanting to go. So I figured he must know what he was getting into and felt comfortable about it, so then let's do it.

Fifteen minutes after he was supposed to be there, I texted and asked, "are you still coming?" His response, "I'm a little lost." I did already give him the instructions that it was on the corner of 6th and Red River. Maybe he needed a little more. So I put, "Red River is just west of I-35. Emo's is on the northeast corner of Red River from 6th."

About 20-30 more minutes goes by. The show starts and finally he walks in. But now it's too loud to really talk.

When the show was over we all go outside (so we can hear each other). And I introduce him to people. There really wasn't ever more that two or three people talking with us at a time. And it was at maximum, five people. So I don't think it would be too intimidating. But he barely ever talked (and I can deal with that, I have situations where that happens to me). But when he does talk, he wouldn't look at ANYONE. I am serious, he was looking at the trees above our heads as he talked. It was the kind of behavior that almost made my teacher self come out and start waving my arms (to teach the kids to look at the person they are addressing. But seriously, I don't ever have to even do that to sixth graders, they already know that!).

He bought himself and me a beer (asked if the other two girls would like one). Then went back to the bar 20 minutes later just to close his tab. So I thought, I guess he's going to leave and is just preparing himself for that. But he didn't leave. (Maybe he thought we were all going to leave? I don't know, I was confused.)

At the end of the evening, I really didn't learn anything new about him (besides that his dog's head is really big...not the riveting information I was needing on this date). But that was just because we were talking with a group of people the whole time. Which is why I didn't want to do that. But he pretty much insisted that is what we do! And yet, he didn't seem to be at all comfortable with it.

My friends asked if I would go out with him again. I think I would probably give him another chance, because it may have been completely different from what he was expecting and was out of his comfort zone. But he may never ask to go on a date again. I haven't heard anything from him since. And I am honestly not upset by that. I think it was weird that he was so insistent about going there and then obviously didn't know what it was really going to be like.

Our first date was nothing like this one. No staring at trees or seeming aloof. That was definitely unexpected!