It's Like the Bachelorette...Minus the Drama!

Well I've been sort-of dragging my feet when it comes to this post. I am not sure why, it's not like it is a totally bad experience. I just don't know what to say about it. For, I think, the first time in my life I am at a loss for words. I am not sure why either. I just don't have anything that comes to my mind to write about, not that nothing is happening, it's strange. But just because I have nothing I think I can write about, doesn't mean I am going to make this post any shorter.

I am referring to my experiences on eHarmony, of course (I don't know why I say of course, not like you would automatically think that).

First, let me say that I have a greater appreciation for the person that goes on the Bachelor/Bachelorette. Because before I respond on eHarmony to anyone's communication I have to refresh my memory on them and what we've talked about. And I am dealing with less men in a longer time span. How they do it, I will never know (well until one writes a tell-all book...which I am anxiously awaiting)!

Last night I kicked off the first official date eHarmony produced. We went and grabbed a few drinks at Opal Divine's Restaurant. If you think I wasn't nervous going into that situation, you'd be crazy. In fact, my last words to my roommate before I left was, "Remember, the name of the place is OPAL DIVINE'S! Because when you are filling out the missing person's report, I want you to have my last known location right!"

(Not that I thought there was anything strange about this guy, I just am still sceptical about meeting someone normal on the Internet.)

But in all actuality, the date went just fine. In fact I remember thinking to myself, I think I could actually see myself with this guy. There were LOTS of things I am looking for in a partner. There were also a few that I wasn't looking for, but none that I would say are complete deal breakers. Before the end of the date, he had already asked me to a second date for Saturday night, so that is good!

Guy number two I've talked to on the phone. I am a little worried he might not be on eHarmony for all the right reasons. He just kinda gives me the "ladies man" vibe (for no more of a reason than he was honest with me about going on a date with another girl the next night. I am pretty sure all of us on eHarmony are doing that, it's just the way he laid it out there with ease.). His work is a little iffy (is that a word?). But even with all the writing back and forth and talking on the phone, it's hard to REALLY read someone. So I'm still giving him a chance, he does seem like a good guy.

Guy number three I am still just writing eHarmony guided emails back and forth. I have found a lot of similarities with him (not necessarily the compatibility kind though). He went to A&M, his sister was in my sorority (younger, and I didn't remember her, but Chelsea and Erin did) and he grew up not far from where I would go with Emily's family as kid when they went to their hunting lease. I'm not sure we are the best match, I think we might have a bit of different lifestyles. But his is definitely for the better, so I like that!

There are others I am communicating with, but we are still on the guided communication. And lets be honest, in guided communication, you really can't tell much about someone, no matter how much eHarmony does to try to spice it up! I just want to end this by sharing some of the ridiculous questions eHarmony provides for you to send the other person during the guided communication stages (that guy number 1 and I were making fun of last night).

Here you go, the "quality compatibility matching system's" (their own words) questions:

• How would you describe your childhood relationship with your mother and/or father?
• Describe your parents relationship with each other.
• Tonight you can do anything you want, no penalties, no reprisals, and the cost is unimportant. What are you going to do?
• When do you feel most afraid?
• Describe some personal habits that are important to you.
• Does life look good to you right now? Describe your current emotional health. (that one is my favorite. It starts out like a decent question, then it gets deep, FAST.)

I just crack up at those questions in particular. I am pretty sure they stole all of those from a serious in-depth emotional well-being survey that was at a psychiatrist office. Seriously.

Thankfully, I have never had a match ask me any of those questions. Otherwise, they would be eliminated immediately.

And yes, I have eliminated someone due to their responses. I sent a question saying something like, "what sort of date sounds like the most fun to you?" This one had multiple choice answers with answers like; go to a romantic dinner, cook dinner, go see a movie or go to the local flee market. I don't know about you, but one of those seems like the obvious answer you immediately eliminate (kinda like the test taking skills I teach my kids, how to first eliminate the absurd one). But sure enough, some weirdo picked it. I mean, going to a romantic dinner would be AWKWARD.

I am kidding. That's not the one that I think should be eliminated immediately. But seriously, a guy did pick the flee market. Lets just say he got an invitation to "close match."

Well that is just about everything I think I needed to update on the whole eHarmony thing. I will try to keep everyone better updated!